Some recent behavioral studies show that we have certain types of triggers, in response to which we may lose control. Of course, with age we learn to control ourselves and control our reaction, although it is worth noting that it is not always given to adults or it is difficult enough. Children react spontaneously because they do not yet control their emotions.

Neurobiologist Douglas Fields, who studies this issue, says that our neural connections, which are specifically designed for anger and aggression, respond to certain irritants that pose a danger to us. After all, anger and aggression are evolutionary mechanisms that tell people when to fight and defend themselves.

Triggers of aggression and anger.

The scientist gives nine universal triggers, in response to which, the situation often gets out of our control:
  • Protect yourself (when you need to protect your life)
  • Reputation protection (when someone harms your feelings)
  • Protection of offspring (when you need to protect your family)
  • Protection of shelter, home (when you need to protect the house)
  • Partner protection (when protecting your partner)
  • Protection of freedom and justice for all (public order situations)
  • Protection of property (when we protect certain material resources)
  • Protecting the people of your circle (when defending your tribe)
  • Protecting yourself from yourself (so-called “stop” situations)
These provocatives can even cause aggression or violence. And the last trigger “Stop” – the one to which children often react, for example, when the child is forbidden something and constantly reminded of it.

It is impossible to predict hysteria before it starts

The neurobiologist says that children should not be asked to stop being angry or crazy, because this is an appeal to the part of the brain that is not yet developed. Kids do not know how to control their emotions, especially negative ones. You should talk to your child when he calms down.

Teach your child self-control

The child’s brain is constantly evolving, and the environment in which the child grows affects the ability to cope with aggression. Parents should not try to stop the child from being angry, but rather show and understand the reasons for such feelings. In this way the child will gradually learn to realize and understand his feelings and neutralize the manifestations of aggression.

Aggression and gender

The scientist believes that the manifestations of aggression also depend on the sex of the child. Boys in this state can, for example, break or throw toys, but girls – direct aggression at themselves. The ability to control his anger develops sports well, because it teaches a child self-control in stress. Therefore, regardless of gender, scientists advise to help the child get rid of excess energy in this way.
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