When the child is able and likes to play independently, the mother has extra time for herself. But, of course, all the kids are different and some just seem to need to constantly follow their mother, when others are fond of their toys and forget about everything else for a long time, playing on their own.

The child’s ability to be independent is also influenced by the atmosphere in the family: if mom and dad quarrel, the child will not feel safe and will need constant contact. Also, keep in mind that there are times, such as the first year crisis, when children are very afraid of being left alone and really need parental support.

So how to teach a child to play independently?

  • Be in the child’s field of vision. Even if, for example, you are cooking, try to arrange everything so that the child can see you. You can talk to him / her, sing, ask for something, etc. The child seems to be alone, but at the same time next to you.
  • “Do it together.” The child always wants to do the same as you and if you provide her with such an opportunity – the constant need to attract the attention of the baby will disappear. For example, if you are in the kitchen, let the child also “cook” something with his/her toys.
  • Relax. The baby is always sensitive to the emotional state of the mother, so do not be annoyed by the little things. If you see that the child needs your attention, give it to her and as soon as it will be enough for the baby he/she will want to try something else.
  • Everything that is forbidden is the most interesting. We are well aware that restrictions only push children to do what they set out to do. Sometimes you can intentionally “forget” to close, for example, the closet with some things where the child was not allowed before. The little brawler will definitely notice and want to explore something new, and mom will have some free time in the meantime.
  • Talk to your child about your responsibilities. The child should be taught to accept that parents have many other responsibilities to perform. If you explain why you do so – the child will eventually learn to understand and accept why parents can not yet pay attention to it and at this time will be able to entertain themselves with something else.
  • Remember the gradualness. It is unlikely that a child will immediately learn to play independently. Gradually increase the period for which you leave the child alone. Start small, for example, just run to the kitchen to stir the soup.
  • Something new. New things or long-forgotten old ones will always interest the child. Therefore, from time to time, you should give something like this to the child, because it is guaranteed to distract her.

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